IMPORTANT: For explanation of EE’s and EV’s, see the bottom of this article.
I’d love to talk about a date that went sideways and out the window.
And not because I did anything wrong. In fact, I did everything I could to make it a good time for her. She just wasn’t engaged or interested at all.
Here is briefly what happened.
I sat down, was waiting for her at the coffee shop. Because of the nature of the coffee shop, it was a little bit confusing as to where I was seated. You could easily walk into the wrong section of the place. And it was a busy day, so there was quite a lot of people there. A lot of noise. So, I sent her a photo of me, sitting there, waiting for her to arrive. After a bit of exchanging messages it appeared she didn’t know where to go. But eventually she came around and I gave her a hug.
The first thing she said was ‘Oh, so this is where you’re hiding?’ whereas I made a joke. Or something. I cannot exactly remember.
Her face was so serious.
She didn’t even smile. She was just sitting there. Like a robot. Wasn’t engaging at all.
I had previously offered to buy her coffee, so I did. I walked over to the counter and the lady behind the counter wanted to know why I was purchasing another coffee, given that I she remembered me. The point was, there was free refill included.
I looked her in the eye with a little smirk and said, ‘This second coffee ain’t for me’ and smiled a little.
‘Oh, right, I understand!’ she said and smiled lightly.
This tiny exchange is important and I will return to it at a later point.
Anyway, back to my already failed date.
I sort of didn’t want to walk back to the table at all. She was still sitting there in the exact same position as when I arrived. She looked like a robot. Or some doll (no, you pervert, not that sort of doll). Hardly moved. I had to really look carefully if she was still breathing.
I sat down and we could officially begin the date.
Or that is, we never really got started. Because, I was doing my best to ask her questions about herself, making herself talk about her own life. But she didn’t want to engage at all. She answered pretty much very plainly ‘Yes’, ‘No’ and ‘I don’t know.’.
There was nothing coming back from her.
Not at all.
No willingness to engage.
No desire to keep the conversation warm and flowing. No interest in getting to know me or anything else. She often times looked away, down and very much had a defensive body language. I even wondered at all why she bothered showing up. Eventually, the whole thing just became comically awkward to the point where I so badly wanted to point out the poor chemistry between us. And how it was, in my humble opinion, her fault alone.
To illustrate the point, I was once on a date in Mexcio with a Mexcian girl who didn’t speak English. The conversation went in awkward Spanish, since my Spanish wasn’t any good. But at the very least, we managed to keep the conversation flowing in a somewhat appropriate manner. All because that Mexican girl wanted to talk. And we made fun of the whole thing, how I was sitting there using Google Translate to aid me in my conversational challenges.
So that took care of the whole communications impediment.
The only impediment was a personal one.
Perhaps she was in a foul mood that day.
Perhaps she was extremely shy and took her sweet time to open up.
Or perhaps she just didn’t want a boyfriend. Who knows? My question is, why would she even bother showing up? Why show up if you ain’t gonna show up? What’s the point?
Now back to the lady behind the counter.
That small little smile and the ‘Oh, I get it now why you bought another cup of coffee’ was her just understanding I was on a date. That was her giving me some of her Energy to make me feel better. As in what EE’s do to make others feel better.
The other one, she shy girl that didn’t want to talk?
Well, I cannot really call her anything else than a black hole of Energy Consumption. You could take all the Energy of a nuclear bomb and throw it in her face. She would have devoured that too. It is the worst sort of EV behavior I have been subjected to in a long time. I was so bored during the whole thing and so was she.
Hence, why the whole date lasted 26 minutes and not a second longer.
‘You know what, I’ve really messed up my planning today. I sincerely apologize. I have to go. Talk to you later!’
I then left, only to be happy I was freed from that vampirical sphere.
And with that, there’s not so much more to say.
Other than reminding you, I will teach you how to navigate the EV’s in your life and make pleasant encounters even better when you run into EE’s. For more information and details, I offer in-depth, personalized and paid for education. But that education is privy only to subscribers of my email list.
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EE: Energy Enabler. A positive, happy and uplifting person that makes you feel good and who wants you to succeed. They always cheer for you and they want to Believe in you. Makes you want to want to go around and affect other people in the same way. Often good looking and successful.
EV: Energy Vampire. Someone who brings you down mentally and psychologically. Often they attack you passive aggressively or they use your attention to make themselves feel good. Hardly or never compliments you. You feel like all life has been sucked out of you when you interact with them.