How EV’s prey on fear

IMPORTANT: For explanation of EE’s and EV’s, see the bottom of this article.

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I have tasted the feeling of fear many times before.

Nearly every single time, that feeling of fear has been exaggerated. That doesn’t mean bad things haven’t happened, though. It just means they weren’t as bad as what I thought they were. And not only that. The consequences weren’t that big of a deal, either. 

Believe it or not, and I cannot Believe I am telling you this;

It was the other person’s reaction that I feared. 

How they would raise their voice. What threats they’d use and the words they’d speak. How they would deliver the message. 

And not so much the message itself. 

If we dive deeper, I wasn’t necessarily concerned with the what as much as the Why and How. ‘Why would he say this?’ ‘How will he deliver these words?’ And so on. If you think about it, this goes back to body language and nonverbal communication. The cues, the voice, the tone, facial expression, eyes and looks and so on. I could write a whole book about this, about the various encounters I’ve had, the experiences I’ve had to go through and so on. 

But that’s not why I’m here. If you want to learn body language, my best tip is ‘What Every Body Is Saying’ by Joe Navarro. 

I think that’s his name.

That’s where I learned the majority of my body language Lessons. Coupled with experience, of course.

Anyway, let’s get to the jist of today’s article. And that is how EV’s are masters at using body language and psychological tricks to get it their way. Deliberately raising their voices, saying words and things they half mean and doing their every bit of bringing you down. Making you feel inferior to them.

There are several ways to deal with them. 

And I go through multiple ways that you can use. 

But just so you know, plenty of these ways Might seem obvious to you, you could easily have ‘Googled’ them and perhaps you already are implementing them. 

But are you really using them with intent?

Are you plotting a plan to deal with the EV in your lives? 

If not, then good luck. I may or may not be able to help you.

It all depends on your willingness to work.

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EE: Energy Enabler. A positive, happy and uplifting person that makes you feel good and who wants you to succeed. They always cheer for you and they want to Believe in you. Makes you want to want to go around and affect other people in the same way. Often good looking and successful. 

EV: Energy Vampire. Someone who brings you down mentally and psychologically. Often they attack you passive aggressively or they use your attention to make themselves feel good. Hardly or never compliments you. You feel like all life has been sucked out of you when you interact with them.

Why greed and selfishness is good

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The following is going to sound contradictory, but I do not care.

Simply put, I will argue the case that you should be selfish and greedy when you are building yourself up. As in, pretty much, every single second of the day. Because, you are always building yourself up. Think about it. Every second of your day should be spent focusing on yourself. Not others. This is Exactly what the EV’s not want you to do, yet do it themselves. 

Yes, you read that right.

The EV’s are so selfish and greedy that they use psychological tricks and ways of being condescending to let you down, make you feel silly and bad, and want you to spend all your Energy pleasing them.

Now, the greed and selfishness ain’t the bad thing here. 

It is the way these two attributes are being used. 

If you use greed and selfishness to block out time and resources (such as money) to work on yourself and your goals with the later intention to help others, that is a good thing.

And yes, I mean for example making more money so you can help out your friends and family financially and so on. 

But in order to do that, you need to be ruthless with your time so you can make more money. 

This is literally the inverse of what the EV’s are doing, since they mostly focus their time and Energy on other people, with the intention of stealing, cheating and conniving. Oftentimes they mask as the ‘good guys.’ And of course that makes you look like the bas guy.

‘Oh, you never have time for me’ or ‘You should think more about what other people want, too!’ 

These are typical comments that the EV’s Give out to bring you down.

And I could go even more into details, but the truth is, you won’t benefit from it since much of it can only be explained through context and nuance Which I offer in my 1 on 1 coaching calls.

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EE: Energy Enabler. A positive, happy and uplifting person that makes you feel good and who wants you to succeed. They always cheer for you and they want to Believe in you. Makes you want to want to go around and affect other people in the same way. Often good looking and successful. 

EV: Energy Vampire. Someone who brings you down mentally and psychologically. Often they attack you passive aggressively or they use your attention to make themselves feel good. Hardly or never compliments you. You feel like all life has been sucked out of you when you interact with them.

The Tinder Swindler 2.0?

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I got an interesting message on one of my social media accounts lately [no, not Tinder, in case you’re wondering];

The message was as follows;

‘What is your PayPal. I’m sending you €1000, it is the head of my company that’s giving away the money.’ 

Cute. 

That’s what I’m thinking of it at first. For anyone who’s not familiar with the movie, The Tinder Swindler was about some Israeli scammer who made several women take up huge loans to finance his lifestyle, since he didn’t have any money himself. Obviously very bad stuff. And whilst I do not recall Exactly what the guy said to the women he conned, I don’t think he was that deliberate and direct in his initial approach. 

But I could be wrong. 

Anyway, the reason I bring this up is I think it’s most likely a fake account. I don’t things are that bad that women pull a Leviev [the name of the Tinder swindler] on other guys yet. 

Once again I could be wrong. 

Now, what does this have to do with EE’s and EV’s? Not that much. Except the people who usually fall for these scams are usually people who have much deeper needs. Such as being lonely and not having other people to talk to, because most people do not like them. 

Sounds like EV’s, right?

I bet you can think of a few scam victims yourself and how they in lots of cases fit the description of EV’s. 

So there’s a little ‘tell’ for ya.

Anyway, hopefully you’re not a scammer yourself and never treat people that badly. But if you’re interested in learning more about EV’s and how to deal with them in fully legal ways, I offer more in-depth education to subscribers of my email list.

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EE: Energy Enabler. A positive, happy and uplifting person that makes you feel good and who wants you to succeed. They always cheer for you and they want to Believe in you. Makes you want to want to go around and affect other people in the same way. Often good looking and successful. 

EV: Energy Vampire. Someone who brings you down mentally and psychologically. Often they attack you passive aggressively or they use your attention to make themselves feel good. Hardly or never compliments you. You feel like all life has been sucked out of you when you interact with them.

Jokes and jesting

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Here’s a different way to think about Energy delivery.

And no, this ain’t meant to be a ‘pick up’ or ‘dating guide’, although you probably could use some of the principles in such an environment as Well.

It is mostly to lift the Energy in your exchanges.

Which could (and should be) a universal trait.

Alright, enough chit chat.

Here’s the meat;

If there was ever something I’d wanted to say, it would have been how to turn most conversations into more interesting ones.

Let’s get a Couple of things out of the way first. I am by no means the funniest or most entertaining bloke there is out there. In fact I Might be a little laidback. I prefer using humor as a sniper and carefully and deliberately deliver amusing statements rather than making absolutely every sentence I produce, a funny one. So, no clownery from me, here.

But it is indeed wise to apply some humor to your interactions. 

Some light jokes is oftentimes all you need. Nothing fancy. 

Also, what I like to do is to use ‘the funny twist.’ In short it means taking an otherwise bland situation and make it into a funnier one. Note I said funniER. Not necessarily hilarious.

Could be as simple as making up some hypothetical instance about a situation, or tell a story about something You experienced once.

Again, nothing big.

People just look for reasons to laugh. 

Let’s say you’re waiting for your luggage to arrive by the conveyor belt and it’s dragging out. 

You simply say to someone; ‘Well, do you think we’ll have to file an application with the AirPort authorities to get our luggage back?’ 

Or, ‘I hope you didn’t pack your most expensive jewellry. Those rampers aren’t paid Well!’ 

No drastic or menacing jokes. Bonus points if the delivery is there, along with a proper facial expression and the right tone in your voice. 

Yeah, this can be Trained. And I talk about both the delivery AND the situation. If you are out of place or do not Understand social etiquette, best practice or even leave behind the jokes. It is a Gray area for sure with a lot of context and nuance.

And, said context and nuance, as Well as other additional tips and tricks for how to deliver your ENERGY and making other people Give you theirs is what I teach in my in-depth educational material.

If you’re interested and you ain’t stingy (‘cause the calls are quite expensive), just reach out to me and we’ll work on the details.

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EE: Energy Enabler. A positive, happy and uplifting person that makes you feel good and who wants you to succeed. They always cheer for you and they want to Believe in you. Makes you want to want to go around and affect other people in the same way. Often good looking and successful. 

EV: Energy Vampire. Someone who brings you down mentally and psychologically. Often they attack you passive aggressively or they use your attention to make themselves feel good. Hardly or never compliments you. You feel like all life has been sucked out of you when you interact with them.

The Importance of saying ‘no’

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Today I want to being your attention to ‘no.’

And, whilst many are preaching about how You should say ‘yes’ more, I am preaching the inverse. It is literally the one word that has given me the most. Yes, you read that right! Saying ‘no’ has GIVEN me more than it has taken from me. Not only time and money, but also ENERGY.

And this is where the real value lies.

But, I *have* to Give credit where credit is due. 

And that is because I did not ‘invent’ this way of thinking. It was being presented to me by Jim Camp via Ben Settle and also, at a later stage, through Chris Voss. 

In terms of ‘real’ value, turning people down is magic like clockwork. Especially the Energy Vampires that pry on your every action and look for reasons to bring you down. You know when you’ve kind of like made up your plans for the day and there’s always that annoying loser dork whom you have to navigate around, either through attending the same sort of work meeting, or you need to go to an appointment where you know he’ll be present, and so on? Yeah, I am talking about those instances. Those instances Which you cannot escape. 

Except by saying ‘no.’

Or actually, that is only half the truth. Because saying ‘no’ and nothing else will leave you inside the EV’s fangs, as all you’ve done is shoot down their suggestion or comment.

Might as Well just invite them over to yours for a party. 

Lord knows that has virtually the same effect. 

Anyway, if you’re interested in learning more about how to navigate the soulless, annoying and downright evil creatures who aren’t content with hearing just ‘no’, best take advantage of the in-depth education I offer to subscribers of my email list.

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EE: Energy Enabler. A positive, happy and uplifting person that makes you feel good and who wants you to succeed. They always cheer for you and they want to Believe in you. Makes you want to want to go around and affect other people in the same way. Often good looking and successful. 

EV: Energy Vampire. Someone who brings you down mentally and psychologically. Often they attack you passive aggressively or they use your attention to make themselves feel good. Hardly or never compliments you. You feel like all life has been sucked out of you when you interact with them.

The worst day of the year?

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To start off this new year, I’d like to highlight something that most, if not everyone ignore. 

And that is the fact that this day oftentimes is the saddest day of the year. It’s the beginning of something New, and people are already looking for reasons Why they shouldn’t follow through with their New Year’s Resolutions. They wake up in a sad state of misery. Having had celebrated the New year and having been reminded that they have up short this year as Well. And now, they are afraid of follow through with the work that they said they would do. And the Dark, Dark thoughts arrive.

Yeah, I know.

It’s miserable. 

This is how so many EV’s think and that’s Why you need to avoid them altogether. 

In order to learn more about them and how you can deal with them, I offer (paid for and expensive) in-depth education.

But that is ONLY for subscribers of my email list.

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EE: Energy Enabler. A positive, happy and uplifting person that makes you feel good and who wants you to succeed. They always cheer for you and they want to Believe in you. Makes you want to want to go around and affect other people in the same way. Often good looking and successful. 

EV: Energy Vampire. Someone who brings you down mentally and psychologically. Often they attack you passive aggressively or they use your attention to make themselves feel good. Hardly or never compliments you. You feel like all life has been sucked out of you when you interact with them.

On takers

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I want to discuss something with you today that is near and dear to my heart. 

And when I say near and dear to my heart, I don’t mean that I like what I want to talk about. It more refers to me enjoying this conversation topic as a whole. Because I genuinely am upset with some of the people that I encounter in day to day life. Most of them expect to be given everything, yet want to contribute with nothing. It is truly a disgusting way of living. 

I’ll give you an example; 

In a martial arts gym where I frequent, there is a group of people who are on the coaches eyes. The young, hungry lions coming up. Of course they get better treatment. If you are new to the gym, you have to earn your spot, show up and expect nothing. However, there are some new guys who join who expect to be treated differently. Like they’re some sort of second coming of Messiah. They show up and ask for special treatment. And they’re not getting it. In fact, they’re swatted on their ass down to ‘beginner level’. In all fairness, that is how you’d expect any sort of group or community. 


Right? 


And, by all means, I think the coaches are being very nice.

If I’d run a gym or any business or group and some takers showed up, expecting me to give them special treatment, I’d kick them out before they could even spell their last name backwards. 


Yeah, I’m harsh like that. 

And, life is too. 

Y’know, in life you’ll encounter a lot of important people. Millionaires, important business men and successful celebrities. A lot of them have big egos. For a reason. Most of them have worked so hard to get to where they are today, they *deserve* to have a big ego. 

And if you are starting off from scratch, you need to understand that as well. 


Especially if you’re walking into another man’s house, which is exactly what these rookies in the boxing gym are doing. After all, you do not tell your host how he should organize the glasses in his cupboards or which way the couch in the living room should be turned. Right? Well, I hope sincerely you agree with me here, because if you do not, there is a chance you might be a taker, like so many others. 


Anyway.

As you probably have come to understand, takers are EVs through and through. 


All they do is focus on making you give them more than they give you, and bring you down at the same time. Like they’re a much better person than what you are. It’s both pathetic and disgusting. It’s the sort of people you want to shy away from. 

In closing, I’ll leave you with this; 

If you want to be a successful person, focus on being an EE instead of an EV. If you’re an EV yourself, there are ways to ‘unlearn’ this bad habit. And if you want to attract other EE’s to your life, I can help you with that as well. 

Interested? 


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EE: Energy Enabler. A positive, happy and uplifting person that makes you feel good and who wants you to succeed. They always cheer for you and they want to Believe in you. Makes you want to want to go around and affect other people in the same way. Often good looking and successful. 

EV: Energy Vampire. Someone who brings you down mentally and psychologically. Often they attack you passive aggressively or they use your attention to make themselves feel good. Hardly or never compliments you. You feel like all life has been sucked out of you when you interact with them.

Was Hitler a good person?

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No he wasn’t. 

Probably the most evil there ever was on Planet Earth. If anything I wouldn’t even call him human. He is something else. A low life creature. 

Anyway, what about Nazis? Can they be good people? 

Well, Maybe you’ll find some people here and there that were forced into this absolute ideology. Kind of like how there are people who adhere to climate activism and veganism by throwing mud at old paintings and vandalizing art sculptures. I personally do not approve of such Antics. And think they should be called what they really are; vandals. 

Anyway, whether you adhere to one or several controversial groups, I do Believe you may have some good in you. 

As long as you do not let it get to your head. 

And here is what I’ll pitch right now; there are ways to get around EV’s who adhere to certain political beliefs and ways that you may or may not disagree with. 

If you are interested in learning this art, I offer such ways of dealing with people in my (paid for) education, privy to subscribers of my email list.

Interested? 

Just know that the education is quite expensive and you’ll have to dig deep in your pockets.

No freebies and cheapies here!

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EE: Energy Enabler. A positive, happy and uplifting person that makes you feel good and who wants you to succeed. They always cheer for you and they want to Believe in you. Makes you want to want to go around and affect other people in the same way. Often good looking and successful. 

EV: Energy Vampire. Someone who brings you down mentally and psychologically. Often they attack you passive aggressively or they use your attention to make themselves feel good. Hardly or never compliments you. You feel like all life has been sucked out of you when you interact with them.

‘Your card was declined’

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True story;

I was sitting at a restaurant in Atlanta a couple of years ago. I’d ordered a couple of smaller things; a burger and a soft drink I think. An associate of mine was there too, and ordered some stuff. I offered to pay for both of us, since he’d been very generous with me in the past. 

‘Not a big deal’ I thought and pulled out my credit card. 

It didn’t take long before the waitress came back, appearing a little stressed out and discretely handed me the receipt from the machine saying my card was rejected. 

I’m not gonna lie here, it almost felt like in a movie. You know, when some mob boss or higher up criminal dines out and they can’t pay because they’ve been busted by the police or some such. 

A sinking feeling. 

So, I had no choice but to pull out my spare card and hope for the best. Perhaps I could pay what I owed using that card instead? 

Well, turned out my hope was in vain.

That card was rejected as Well, and this time the waitress announced the rejection out loud before me and my company. 

Literally one of, if not the most embarrassing feeling I’ve ever gone through. Being told I’m poor and can’t pay for my bills not once, but twice! And for the record, I personally take Pride in being someone who pays all my bills fast. No, it is not fun, and I don’t like paying my bills, but I have to. All the more reason to work harder on making more money, right? 

Anyway, it ended with my pal paying for our food and drinks and me looking dumb. At least I felt dumb. And I swore I would *never* get in that situation again. 

Until I did recently. 

I was going to pay for something online, and for whatever reason, my bank or the card issuing company enforced a ceiling of money spend. Or some such. There was, some sort of limit of how much money you could spend or use within a time Frame. Supposedly I had reached that limit and my card was once again declined.

That same sinking feeling of being a criminal struck me. 

Next thing I was half expecting the tax office or cops to knock on my door, pulling me in for questioning. 

Fortunately it was just a poor selection of choices, and a bank looking out for me. 

Anyway. 

That sinking feeling, whether it’s one that other people inflict on you by their own reaction to what happens, they’re wired like that or they’re actively trying to make you feel bad, is what EV’s will use proactively. Trying to bring you down. 

And some are better than others. Especially in noticing patterns in you that they can take advantage of.

If this worries and interests you and you’d like to learn more about how to deal with this behavior, then feel free to reach out to me and I will teach you what I know through my (paid for) education.

But there’s a catch. And that catch is, you need to be subscribed to my email list in order to even be eligible for said education.

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EE: Energy Enabler. A positive, happy and uplifting person that makes you feel good and who wants you to succeed. They always cheer for you and they want to Believe in you. Makes you want to want to go around and affect other people in the same way. Often good looking and successful. 

EV: Energy Vampire. Someone who brings you down mentally and psychologically. Often they attack you passive aggressively or they use your attention to make themselves feel good. Hardly or never compliments you. You feel like all life has been sucked out of you when you interact with them.

Make MORE money with Energy?

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Sit down and listen, chap. 

I’ve got a lot on my Mind today!

One of the best way to gauge your Energy Levels when dealing with people is seeing how they react to your demeanor.

And in particular children. 

Before you start moaning about kids just being kids, they haven’t developed fully yet, their Minds are still in a place of growth and whatever other excuse you have, keep in Mind that kids are the most sincere, honest and transparent human beings there are in terms of Feedback. If a kid doesn’t like your mood, he or she will let you know. They’ll quickly turn away if you’re scary and they’ll smile if they’re attracted to your presence. 

No, I am not suggesting you go join a kindergarten or start a daycare business. 

But if you have the chance, Why don’t you experiment a little if you’re around these little tiny magicians.

Depending on where you live and what you do, it’s the Holiday season after all. 

And more, the more you practice being around other people, be it kids or adults, the more you’ll be able to gauge how others like and respond to you. If you make them feel good, chances are they’ll want to have more yo do with you in the future. And I ain’t talking necessarily about other kids. I am talking about the people you find important in your life, like business owners with whom you want to make money, hot girls you want to bang, possible mentors you want to seek out and so on. 

Other people who teach this stuff say it’s all about value exchange and so on. 

This is true and I Agree. 

But it’s also about making other people take your Energy and Give them an opportunity to Give theirs to you, so that they’ll feel good. It’s a positive Feedback loop where you work on making each other feel good simultaneously. 

And just like anything, this has to be Trained. 

If you’re in the business of making money and charging for some of service or product (Which I assume a lot of the readers on this list are), then I’d love to echo a guest on the Strike It Big podcast who said something important the other day. 

The bloke is a personal trainer of some sort I think. Or involved in the fitness industry one way or the other. Which means he has a lot of insight into how that particular niche works. 

When being questioned about how any valuable tips and insights, he said something like (and I am paraphrasing);

‘You know, many of the most successful trainers aren’t even the best in the industry. They just get more clients and people like them better because they’re more enjoyable to be around. So they’re the highest paid trainers.’ 

Think about that for a second. 

And no, I am not suggesting you aim to be inferior at what you do. Aim to be the best. By all means. But that also means being the best at Energy Exchanges and making others like you. 

I’m reminded how I ended up buying a car, almost exclusively because of how much I enjoyed the salesclerk and his way of making me feel good and how much Energy he gave me. Yeah I liked the car, Yeah it was the sort of car I wanted, but given I’m not a ‘car guy’, I could have ended up purchasing another car from another Brand if I didn’t like that particular lad. 

So Yeah, Energy Exchanges and making others feel good go both ways. 

Something to chew on the next time you’re being sold something and you end up buying because you actually like the other person. 

How can you take what they do and use it in your everyday life?

There’s big money and lots of success to achieve if you play your cards right. 

I could go on forever, but I’ll leave you with my regular sales pitch; 

If you’re interested in purchasing (expensive) education about in-depth analysis of how to take and Give Energy, tailored to your unique situation, then I recommend you subscribe to my email list.

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EE: Energy Enabler. A positive, happy and uplifting person that makes you feel good and who wants you to succeed. They always cheer for you and they want to Believe in you. Makes you want to want to go around and affect other people in the same way. Often good looking and successful. 

EV: Energy Vampire. Someone who brings you down mentally and psychologically. Often they attack you passive aggressively or they use your attention to make themselves feel good. Hardly or never compliments you. You feel like all life has been sucked out of you when you interact with them.